Thursday, June 30, 2011

Is June the new April?


June Gloom (noun) : a Southern California term for a weather pattern caused by the Catalina eddy that results in overcast skies with cool temperatures during the late spring and early summer in the mornings and afternoons; the reason that there are only 3 posts this month
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Just kidding folks!

With few exceptions, nothing but great things this month and THAT'S the reason for so few postings. Here's hoping that July and August (and we know what happens in August, don't we Bob?) are wonderful.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/What_About_Bob%3F

Saturday, June 11, 2011

whiner vs wino - who's the better companion?


help-rejecting complainer (noun) : the frustrating individual in your life who constantly (and often needlessly) complains yet refuses to take steps to change
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A recent suggestion from a reader on this topic, and an acquaintance who seemed depressed but rejected all suggestions to get help or improve her life, prompted a little research on this type of personality. And of course, this is a "type" of personality.

After much research (and reading all the references to The Happiness Project in the blogosphere), the question comes down to whether a person is a true ‘help-rejecting complainer’ (HRC) or just someone who needed a little sympathy. The answer - it depends on the consistency of the behavior.

Those who side more with the HRCs maintain that not every complaint needs a solution offered; sometimes a person just wants someone to listen and perhaps offer a bit of sympathy. (So, they suggest, instead of saying, "maybe you should do this" say instead, “you sound really down/sad/frustrated/etc.; what are you going to do about it?”)

Most likely those folks are just whiners themselves. Because the true HRC will say that nothing will help and there’s nothing to be done about it. End Of Story.

And that’s when you agree with them and prove them right by no longer being available to listen. Unless you're a bartender and it's your job.

Sunday, June 5, 2011

Joe Black's recent visits


death wish (noun) : in Freudian psychology, the desire for self-annihilation
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Two doctors' deaths are noted in the New York Times this weekend - Dr Death himself, Jack Kevorkian, who believed that people had the right to be helped to commit suicide if they were terminally ill, and Dr Leo Rangell, a noted Freudian psychoanalyst.

While neither really seemed to have a death wish per se (they died at age 83 and 97, repsectively), that seemed a more interesting opening than "obituary". Dr Rangell's obituary (which provides his and our friend Dr Freud's belief that talk therapy and not medication is the cure for most emotional issues) is worth the reprint here (from the New York Times):

'Dr. Leo Rangell, a leading psychoanalyst during the heyday of classical Freudian talk therapy in the 1960s and ’70s, and a relentless advocate for the slow approach to treating emotional distress even as antidepressants and managed care made short-term treatment the norm, died on May 28 in Los Angeles. He was 97.

His family said the cause was complications of a surgical procedure the day before at the U.C.L.A. Medical Center.
Dr. Rangell, a practicing psychoanalyst and emeritus clinical professor of psychiatry at the Los Angeles and San Francisco campuses of the University of California, remained active until the end of his life — teaching, writing for scholarly journals, seeing patients until a few days before he died and contributing articles about public affairs to The Huffington Post.

His stamina as a writer and teacher, and as a major player in the often contentious political world of the psychoanalytic profession, was legendary. He published 450 academic papers during his lifetime and nine books, the last at the age of 94. Dr. Rangell’s prominence in his field coincided with a sea change in American attitudes about psychological treatment during the late 1960s. The emerging availability of psychoactive prescription drugs, as well as competition from psychologists, social workers and even New Age practitioners, began to diminish the appeal of classic psychoanalytic treatment, with its arduous exploration of unconscious feelings in sessions two or three times a week that could span years.

In an interview with The New York Times in 1968, Dr. Rangell acknowledged the changes in the air but attributed them to a kind of cultural misunderstanding. In the can-do, post-World II American imagination, he said, psychoanalysis had become wrongly perceived as a cure-all. “The hopes of the general public exceeded all reasonable expectation,” he said. “There were hopes that a generation of children could be brought up free of problems, that psychoanalytic insight would rid the world of crime, divorce and learning problems. Now there’s a big letdown.”

Throughout the subsequent decades, as new forms of therapy continued to multiply — and managed care insurance limited mental health coverage for many people — Dr. Rangell remained an advocate for the fundamental insights laid down by Sigmund Freud at the beginning of the 20th century. “There are always fashions and fads and pendulum swings,” Dr. Rangell said, “but no explanatory system of human behavior has as yet supplanted the psychoanalytic one.”

Peter Loewenberg, a psychoanalyst and professor of the history of psychoanalysis at U.C.L.A., described Dr. Rangell as one of the profession’s “leading statesmen” and a voice for humanistic values in an age of quick-fix therapy. “Everyone today is led to believe that they will feel better if they take a pill, and that is sometimes true,” Dr. Loewenberg said. “What Leo Rangell promoted was the analytical tradition of understanding the self.”'

Tuesday, May 31, 2011

group


group therapy (noun) : the place where individuals sit at a table filled with food possessing only extra long utensils that prevent them from bringing food to their mouths and therefore they go hungry
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Ideally, these people eventually are supposed to learn to feed each other with those same utensils. You may have heard this story as the difference between heaven and hell - it's the same thing really.

Joining a group helps the therapist see how you actually interact with others (and not rely simply on what you tell him or her). More importantly, the group dynamic is supposed to present the individuals with a safe place to hear how you communicate or act and how you are perceived, in case you want to make some changes here. Nice theory but very difficult to do with a group of people who all have different issues that they are working through. One basic and recurring theme is the need to feel heard and understood.

In an episode of the US reality television show, Survivor, the host Jeff Probst actually showed how group therapy works best (and to his or his producer's credit, he even noted this). Take a look at tribal council on episode 10 - http://www.cbs.com/primetime/survivor/
and Jeff's input as to his role as therapist -
http://popwatch.ew.com/2011/04/21/jeff-probst-on-episode-10-of-survivor-redemption-island/

Until next time...

Monday, May 30, 2011

laughter = really the best medicine



laughter therapy (noun) : the use of humour to cope with trauma or major life stresses, e.g. 'If I don't laugh, I'll cry.'
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Not to discredit Dr Steve but Dr Madan Kataria believes that the simple act of laughing is enough to change your mood. See:

http://www.raffikatchadourian.com/guru.html

This basically means that no comics or jokes are needed - you just need to laugh and that will improve your mood and your life. Even a fake laugh will do it. Funny enough (and irony is a form of humour, folks, so feel free to chuckle or even giggle here), the theory has merit.

In "The Talking Cure", author Susan Vaughan believes that talk therapy works because the act of talking, especially talking about traumas, over and over, changes patterns in your brain. (That's why talk therapists always say to keep talking and keep telling those stories - the retelling allows you to fully have the feelings that you repressed or explained away.) Those changed brain patterns subsequently change the way you feel and react to the trauma in the future. And this means you get past the trauma and get better.

So Dr Kataria's theory that even forced laughter done regularly makes sense. Maybe all those folks doing Laughter Yoga and Laughter Therapy are onto something. Maybe one day, mental health insurance will cover the cost of cover and two drinks at a comedy club each week. (Now THAT'S funny since mental health insurance in the US rarely covers anything! But that's another post.)

So seriously now (there's irony again for anyone who missed it), whoopie cushion anyone?

Thursday, May 26, 2011

funny bone therapy


therapeutic humor (noun) : any intervention that promotes health and wellness by stimulating a playful discovery, expression or appreciation of the absurdity or incongruity of life's situations
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At least according to the Association for Applied and Therapeutic Humor.

I'm sure that you, like me, are amazed that there is such an organization like the Association for Applied and Therapeutic Humor. Perhaps even some of you (like me) are wondering whether the Association for Applied and Therapeutic Humor is looking to hire comics to work some intervention therapy. I for one could use the extra money and am well qualified to "stimulate" the "absurdity or incongruity of life's situations."

However, I thought that my stimulation of the absurdity of life's situations made me more depressed and was not actually a therapeutic self intervention at all.

Silly me!

Dr Steve explains it all on his site - http://www.humormatters.com/definiti.htm

Whoopie cushion anyone?

Monday, May 23, 2011

trouble with men


man (noun) : an animal so lost in rapturous contemplation of what he thinks he is, as to overlook what he indubitably ought to be; his chief occupation is extermination of other animals and his own species
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According to the NYTimes, men have certain issues with which only a male therapist can help. See

http://www.nytimes.com/2011/05/22/health/22therapists.html?_r=1&hp

And I thought men were supposed to be simple! Looks like unless more men get into the field of psychoanalysis, we are going to be stuck with a lot of unhealthy males ruling this planet. (Although looking at the current world situation, we've been stuck at this place for a while now...)

Too bad psychoanalysis represents thankless work that you can't ever get rich doing (since you can't duplicate yourself) - two qualities that don't attract a lot of men. This means that the situation won't change any time soon. Perhaps all the post-booming mothers raising boys will have done talk therapy to work out how to help them become well adjusted men who won't need therapy.

But it's more likely just more business for those few mail therapists who remain.